Happy October! This is one of my favorite months. The shop is busy with new Fall arrivals and I get energized by the crisp Fall air. Yes, I know. The crisp Fall air has not quite made it to the Lowcountry but, the idea of crisp Fall air is enough to get me in the spirit; along with the iconic Pumpkin Spice Latte from Starbucks (ha!).
October is also an important month. It is Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month.
To be honest, I wish I did not know this. In fact there are many days I shutter to think that I have become somewhat of an Infant Loss infomercial. Don’t get me wrong, I am extremely proud of my work with The Zoe Foundation but let’s be honest, not many folks want to talk about infant loss. It is sad, scary, and unimaginable to most…as it should be.
What keeps me going are those who can imagine it. Those who have lived it. Those who have had to say goodbye to their children before knowing them. Those who did not have enough time with their baby. Those, like myself, that feel the loss of their child every single day.
Thanks to my dear friend, Kayla Johnson, the Founder and Executive Director of The Zoe Foundation, I have learned the value and art of starting uncomfortable conversations. Because for every one person that might squirm at the mention of infant loss, it could truly be a saving grace to another.
Many of you know my story (click here for details). Many of you have similar stories of your own.
The most important piece is that we keep talking about it to help others, that is what October Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness is all about.
The Zoe Foundation’s Harper Project works closely with Hospice Care of the Lowcountry to facilitate a bi-weekly Infant Loss Grief Support Group (the only Infant Loss group in Beaufort County). Since our start in 2013, our group has grown and we are lucky to have a staff of volunteer professionals (Social Workers, licensed Counselors and pediatricians) that generously donate their time and infinite wisdom to assist families through the grieving process.
A few weeks ago, a new member to the group approached me afterwards and said, “I wish I found this group sooner”. Feelings of both pride and sadness consumed me. Pride that through the ZF’s Harper project my daughter is making her mark on the world, even though she lived 12 short hours. And great sadness knowing these groups are few and far between and the silence surrounding Infant Loss can be extremely isolating to families. Many families find themselves in hopeless situations unable to cope due to lack of understanding from family and friends. The Zoe Foundation’s Harper Project is working with local agencies (such as Coastal Carolina Hospital and Hospice Care of The Lowcountry) to help break the silence!
If you, or someone you know can benefit from our services please contact: firstname.lastname@example.org or please visit: www.zoe-foundation.org
We are honored to be attending The Walk To Remember in memory of our daughter, Harper Louette Quinn. I will be walking alongside some of the strongest people I have ever met. For that, I am grateful. Thank you to ALL that have helped support The Zoe Foundation’s Harper Project. Your kindness and generosity is appreciated more than you know.